Thursday, 4 July 2013
The downsides to being a TCK
(In Italy, 2003)
My best friend is getting married in just over a week and she asked me to be part of her Bridal party. Problem being, her wedding is in Connecticut and I'm in London and July is the most expensive time to fly from London to New York. The amount of times, as a TCK, I've said, "If money wasn't an issue…". Well this is one of the biggest of those moments and it tears me up that I won't be able to see my beautiful friend walk down the aisle and pledge herself to the man she loves.
I have missed so many key life moments due to being on the other side of the planet…namely, all of my biological grandparents' funerals. This year I was able to attend and represent my family at my adopted Grandma's funeral, Laura. It wasn't easy but now I know the importance of saying farewell and grieving at the appropriate time.
Having been to three funerals in a short span of time, I said to my husband that I needed to go to more happy events…i.e. my friend Stefanie's wedding. I was determined to make it happen and have tossed & toiled trying to find loopholes around the increasing flight fares but it just isn't going to happen. I am only now starting to admit defeat...9 days before the wedding. It gives me a heavy heart at a time meant for rejoicing. I will be with her in spirit on the 13/7/13 but this is a sore reminder of the downsides to TCK existence...
(Most recently, 2012)