“Heidi Sand-Hart’s “Home Keeps Moving” authenticates the TCK experience. Her personal stories demonstrate the tangible reality of the TCK theories we have been reading and hearing about for years.” – Tina L Quick, author of The Global Nomad's Guide to University Transition

Thursday, 4 April 2013

Home Stops Moving?



Ironically enough, it seems that ever since Home Keeps Moving was published, I stopped moving! Yes, I've done the obligatory London rental moves…from Southfields to Putney for a year, then to Tooting, becoming a home-owner but I have been a London resident for almost four years now. Gone are the long Asian backpacking adventures, the freedom of making up plans as you go along; the world your oyster. I miss those days...

I know that life is about seasons, but this season seems to be dragging far longer than I anticipated. What we've done makes perfect sense…instead of locking us down, it actually has the potential to free us up in the long run. It is the wisest financial investment I will probably ever make - London real estate continues to rise. It's funny because our announcement of having bought our first flat together was met by universal "so you've settled down in London forever then". That mold of thinking baffles me…that everything has to be so absolute in life. Not everything has to fit in tidy boxes all the time. The simple truth is that we decided that instead of flushing rental money down the toilet, it made perfect sense to buy and we were in a position to do so. 
The fact that I'm now a London home-owner -- although exciting -- doesn't change my desires for the future. It doesn't cure my TCK restlessness (I don't think anything will). It just gives me a different focus for this particular phase of life. It gives me the chance to put down a few roots, to really invest in the neighbourhood I live in, to know that FINALLY I have somewhere to store all my things when the next destination comes knocking on my door. It also means that I always have somewhere to return to that won't disappear. Somewhere to call "home" if I so chose to. And that is actually quite a magical, freeing feeling. I can now focus on trying to make this place the best home possible, to enjoy the comforts of the West. For there will be a time, however far around the corner, where I'll be killing cockroaches…living out of a suitcase…unable to sleep for the barking dogs outside my window. Without both, you never truly appreciate the other. 
So it is my task now, for this season to enjoy being in one place, to know that my local pubs/cafes will be local to me for years to come. There will always be short trips and holidays. And of all the corners of the globe, I am so happy that it is multicultural Tooting (where I am surrounded by South Indians), in the beautiful metropolis of London that I can finally lay down some semblance of roots.

Tuesday, 2 April 2013

Good TCK definitions?

Some good TCK definitions?

Saudade - "a longing, a melancholy, a desire for what was and something that really won't ever be again."

Sehnsucht - "the inconsolable longing in the human heart for we know not what."

Know any others?!

Wednesday, 13 February 2013

"Points of Origin" short-film

A really interesting TCK short-film by Erin Sinogba. Definitely worth a watch!

My favourite quote: "I find that being TCK makes me much less interested in Filipino culture, much less interested in American culture and way more interested in the base line humanity that connects us all. What joys do we share, what pains are universal?" - Pauline. 


Watch it now: 




Tuesday, 8 January 2013

Rest In Peace Laura Waite

LAURA WAITE: 1920 - 2013

On Saturday evening, my wonderful English grandma Laura passed away. I mentioned her in "Home Keeps Moving" when discussing the unique relationships TCKs form to adopted grandparents. She always felt like my blood-grandma since she was there right from the beginning and was ever-present in my life. Laura used to spend the weekends with us when I was little and take the 4am play-shift with my eldest brother Samuel so my parents could catch up on sleep. She cared for all three of us Sand kids like we were her own and taught us so much about English culture. Laura was ever-present in my life since birth, writing letters to me in India and sharing phone calls and visits in the UK. She did all the things grannies do and showered me with nothing but love and laughter. 

She had a major stroke just before Christmas and managed to hang on for more than two weeks despite getting pneumonia and then kidney failure. This is testament of one of the strongest women I know...a complete fighter despite all the hardships life threw her way. I managed to go up to Nottingham and see her three days before she passed away and the first thing she did was ask how my family was despite being in excruciating pain. That is Laura. 

As with everything in TCK life though, the complexities are great. She means the world to me and my family yet we aren't close to her immediate family so it will feel strange at the funeral being surrounded by people who don't know me or how much she meant to my family. My parents are in India at the moment and Ben in South America which makes it feel even more isolating during this time of grieving.

Still, this is the time to acknowledge what a privilege it was to have such an extraordinary woman in my life, to have shared life with her and to call her my grandma. May you rest in peace, you mean the world to me.


Wednesday, 28 November 2012

Airports and home...

As you may have noticed, I was recently featured in a TCK short-film: "I am home: thoughts of a nomad". Not all of my transcript made the cut so here is the full version, in two parts:



Home

"Home is the red earth and mountains of South India; the smell of tea plantations and eucalyptus trees being kissed by monsoon rains. It is having a delicious feast of curry and chapattis at 10 o’clock in the evening, being waited on by attentive, loving Asian ladies in England. It is summers spent traversing through beautiful Norwegian meadows, drinking from waterfalls, eating grandma’s home-cooked food....armed with the spirit of freedom and adventure. It is the exhilarating midnight run from a steaming sauna into a crystal clear Finnish lake. 

Home is a feeling that doesn’t come around all too often.

Home is motion. Home is change. Home is a contradiction. I feel more at home in chaos and dirt than order and cleanliness. I feel at homehere, there, and everywhere yet belong nowhere. 

I don’t have a special doll from my childhood or clothes from when I was a baby. I have lost a little more with every move. All I have to hold on to are photographs and memories, but even they fade with time. 

Home is a place within me that my heart always longs for. A treasure I’ve never found. A myth that is spoken about with such ease and normality yet something I can’t even put my finger on. Home keeps moving."

Airports

"Departures. Arrivals. Farewells. Hello’s. Tears and Laughter. 

Airports encapsulate the emotions of my life.

So many of my childhood memories are intertwined with airports, so much of my life has been spent in random terminal buildings. 

The moment I enter an airport, I flick in to autopilot and am embraced by a sense of familiarity and safety. They are portals to the outside world. A gateway to freedom. The possibilities are endless, the world at your fingertips. Airports propel us onwards, to the next chapter of life. And in that motion, I find comfort. In the transition, I find home.

Airports breed stories. Everyone has one whether they are leaving or arriving..."

Tuesday, 13 November 2012

"I am home" London screening

"I am home" (short-film by Anastasia Kirillova about being a modern-day nomad) is being screened at Brixton's Ritzy cinema on the 22nd November 2012 here in London. Ana has been nominated for a cinematography award and she really deserves it. 

Tickets are on general sale at: http://www.underwirefestival.com/ai1ec_event/looking-glass/?instance_id=109

You can watch "I am home" at Ana's website or here: http://vimeo.com/39100216


Sunday, 14 October 2012

"I am home", TCK short-film...

Finally, it is here -- my acting debut! A brilliant short-film by Anastasia Kirillova
about being a modern-day nomad. You can watch "I am home" in the film section of the below website:


http://bonnieparker.tv/home/

"I am home" has been nominated for a cinematography award at Underwire festival and will be showcased at the Brixton Ritzy cinema in London next month. Very exciting...I am honoured to be part of this incredible project!

Enjoy and let me know what you think...